There’s someone you don’t like. You already know who I mean. They live in your nervous system. The sound of their voice tightens your chest. Their energy scrapes against your skin like sandpaper. You brace when they enter the room, or even your mind. And then, just when you think you’ve earned a little righteous […]

Overthinking is a big problem for both INFJ personality types and INFP personality types. As a writing coach who specializes in working with both types, I’ve seen that overthinking is tied to INFJs and INFPs struggling overall with creativity, feeling connected to their intuition, and life in general. So many INFJs and INFPs have said […]

Dale Carnegie’s wisdom reminds us that our reactions to circumstances shape our emotions. Moments of Feeling Stuck We’ve all experienced those moments when it feels like we’re trapped in a quagmire. It’s a time when we might feel immobilized, question our worth, and find ourselves in a state of bewilderment. We yearn to move forward, […]

“I don’t want someone who sees the good about me. I want someone who sees the bad and still loves me.” —Anonymous “The beginning of love is to let those we love to be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we […]

Life is hard. We want to find an easier way, but we struggle with it. Part of the problem is simply this. There may be no easier way. We just have to make a decision about where we are going to put our energy. In counseling there is the idea that we never really solve […]

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.” ~Brian Andreas Do you ever forget to take care of yourself? I know. You’re busy, and finding the time to take proper care of yourself can be hard. But […]

We all need some quiet time. Typically, it means getting away from all the external noise in our lives, such as overlapping demands, chaotic conversations, and pressure to do or think what others want us to. The result is we get saturated and overloaded. We just want to get away from it all for a […]

Breath. It’s something you can be aware of or turn over to your autonomic nervous system, which is linked directly into your survival instinct, and your body just . . . well, knows how to breathe. So you don’t have to think about it or put your attention directly on it. It just happens by […]

Search in the depths of yourself, and you’ll find a Trickster. Dodging into the shadows. Ducking behind the rocks. Running from cave to cave. Planting booby traps, sabotaging trails, and masterminding the next crisis in your life. This Trickster doesn’t seem to want the same things as you. It’s apparent concern is disturbing your peace […]

How I ended the misery of anxiety in my life. I woke up in a fog that morning. I woke up in somebody else’s apartment, in someone else’s life, as someone I barely knew. My skin felt heavy and dull. I was worn out and exhausted from constant worry and fear. 4 years earlier, I […]