We have constructed lives based on ideas (usually other people’s ideas) of what we should do to feel successful. These are mental constructs based on a set of mostly random factors. Go to this school, drive this car, marry this type of person, live in this zip code, work this kind of job. As if […]

From the driver’s seat of a U-Haul van, I watched the scorching black snake of highway crawl away across the desert ahead. Swirling dust devils on either side of the road matched the chaos of thoughts that swarmed in my head. “Where am I going?” “Why am I doing this?” “What will happen when I […]

I only know one way to keep or regain a passion for life. The word is porous. Porous. Permeable. Able to be penetrated by. Capable of being drenched all the way through. Vulnerable. There are as many ways of living as there are humans, but there are two main ways of being that determine how […]

I walked by a mirror and caught the glance of my own eyes. The words that came from my lips without warning surprised me. “I love you.” It stopped me. I turned back to meet my gaze in the mirror. It was the first time in my life that this had ever happened spontaneously. Unlike […]

I’m on the Hearts Rise Up podcast today! I had a good long talk with Carol Chapman about getting past my own addiction and creative paralysis to become a writing coach for INFJ and INFP writers. We also talked about the ways empaths and sensitive intuitives can begin to accept ourselves AND our unique gifts. INFJs and […]